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Originally written by Darcy Volden Hoag for the blog Prosperity Happens Recently at SOHS radio the subject of Dream Stealers and Joy Robbers has come up. I wrote this post some time ago but it's a great share here for this topic: Saddening to me that there are these kinds of people in this world. It's amazing the power these kinds of people can have over us and how devastating they can be especially to people chasing a dream.
Yesterday I was absolutely buzzing with joy and out of nowhere popped a "Joy Robber". This same lady that I mentioned in yesterday's post who was so nice and roared with paise over my son's web site wrote me back a second time and absolutely slammed me. Huh? She absolutely spewed wicked and nasty venom at me. Wow. I came crashing down in little pieces.
I don't know exactly who wrote this but this is his definition of a "Dream Stealer" ("Joy Robber" fits here perfectly too):
"A dream stealer is a person from whom
negativity emits, and nothing else. A person who voices faults found in
every ideal. Existing does not seem a wise basis to determine if
announcement is appropriate. This thief will without regard for the, for
lack of a better word, feelings of others, opens his or her big mouth and
shatter hope, aspiration, and dreams."
I have to remind myself that there must be a greater reason or purpose for these kinds of people in this world.
It is amazing how much of a devestating impact these kinds of people have on us. Have you ever had an instance where someone was rude, ugly, nasty or mean to you? It irks me that we'll remember those folks forever. Right? I bet when I asked that question someone immediately flashed into your mind ... and you could picture it very clearly.
That same guy that wrote about what dream stealers are also said, "For some reason, there is a bitterness associated with dream stealers.
It frequently exhibits itself as constant cynicism and hypocrisy. I can
only assume sometime in the past a gigantic dream was stolen, and the lack
of positive association permitted negativity to take over. At first it
doesn't seem bad, just rotten days. Then rotten weeks and rotten months.
Soon there's rottenness everywhere. In everything they do. From how they
walk to how they speak to how they hold their utensils."
Which reminds me of the most important message I have ever learned. And it clearly explains the writer's "for some reason". It comes from Greg Baer, MD author of "Real Love" :
"In order to be happy, what we all want more than anything else is to
feel loved. Even the Beatles knew that—"All you need is love"—but not
just any kind of love will do. We need Real Love—unconditional love.
It's Real Love when other people care about our happiness without any
concern for themselves. When we make our foolish mistakes, when we
don't do what they want, or even when we inconvenience them personally,
they're not disappointed or angry."
I am reminded how it actually makes me sad for dream stealers and joy robbers (and other not-so-nice-folks)... they are angry because they are missing and longing for unconditional love. I think to myself when I run into these kinds of people, "What must have happened to you? Look at this little child crying out to be loved."
Yet, even though I know this I cannot deny that it still stings like a mutha when they zap you.
I guess my point is...on our own we have to work soooooooo hard to remove our but's and P.S's to clear out the interference between ourselves and our desires. Just when we get ourselves lined up and in a straight line we have to be EXTREMELY strong in the face of dream stealers and joy robbers. They can, in a mili-second, put us right back at square one and make the journey back doubly hard...because now they serve to validate our original doubts and fears. Our original interference of doubt, but's and P'Ss becomes even more convoluted and zig-zagged because it's not just our own voice of self-doubt we hear... we hear their's as well. Imagine if you had 3 or 4 or 5 dream stealers or joy robbers amongst you. It's a miracle that any of us ever manifest a thing.
You HAVE to remember that these people are very very very sad people that so deeply miss the feeling of being UNCONDITIONALLY loved. I think when they see someone experiencing joy or chasing a dream that their inner 3 yr. old comes and sticks their tongue out at you.
Does it hurt? Hell ya. Does it knock you down? Yup. But, you CANNOT let it keep you down. You have to remember the source from which their comments truly stem. Now, when this kind of thing happens I just ask for The Father's hand and say, "Please send love to this person".
And, if at all possible...you must rid yourself of these kind of people from your life if they are not strangers. Easier said than done but get to know the power of surrounding yourself with positive, happy, upbeat and joyful people. These are the folks that will help propel you towards your dreams... and give you unconditional love when you need to pout because you had a run in with a dream stealer or a joy robber.
I mimic the words of the mystery writer who said, "I do know one thing; the next person who tries to steal my dream can pry it
from my cold, dead hands."
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